How to Deal with Growing Children?
If you meet the mother or father of a child and ask them about their child, they will surely narrate each and every problem regarding their child. Some mothers even feel relieved after sending their children to school. They feel that all their work remains incomplete due to the children and they are not able to do any of their work due to the fights between the children.
According to Mrs. Verma of Kanpur, ‘together these two children turn the house upside down.’ Sometimes this fight between siblings increases so much that many mothers have to beat them to control them. Let us know some such problems of children and their solutions:
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When Your Child Gets Angery
Whenever you see your child angry, instead of sympathizing with him, leave him alone for some time. Do not let the child dominate you. Do not fulfill his unnecessary demands to please him. Talk to him after some time when his anger subsides.
If the child does some good deed, he should get a small gift for that deed as a sign of your love and for every wrong deed he should get immediate but small punishment so that he can differentiate between good and bad deeds.
Fights Between Siblings
Being the child of the same parents does not necessarily mean that both the children have the same thoughts and live together lovingly. Even if they are siblings, there is a difference in the nature of the children. First of all, parents should let the children solve the problems themselves, but if you have to participate in the fight, you should never impose your decision on them. Tell the children how to live and eat together. Tell them that if they are alone today, tomorrow someone else can also be with them.
Problems Related to Eating and Drinking
This is also a serious problem with which parents are usually seen struggling. Parents are often surrounded by children running away from the food prepared for them or frowning at those things. You can try to feed them something with love and coaxing. If they do not agree even to that, do something once a week which will inspire them not to look down upon food. For this, organize a small get-together with the nearby children in the evening so that the child develops the habit of eating. Always keep some such things in your fridge so that the child does not remain hungry.
Children’s Demands for Things
Nowadays, children have become crazy about the latest products available in the market. So much so that these new generation children consider their parents no less than a credit card. In such a situation, this problem is becoming a very serious problem for parents.
Parents should give examples of other very poor children living in the society and explain to them that those poor children have nothing, and yet they are earning by working hard, they are doing something. This example will definitely effect the soft heart of your child. Also refer to the financial condition of your family and tell them that it is not easy for you to fulfill every demand, but still spend some part of the budget on your child as well. This will ensure that he/she does not feel neglected.
Problems Related to Adolescence
If your child is also going through this phase of life, you may have to be very alert. Saying ‘no’ is sometimes good but saying ‘no’ repeatedly can have an adverse effect on them. Growing children look for a ‘role model’ in their surroundings, so what you are and what you do affects them in every way. Slow down the pace of your life a little and spend some time at home with your teenage children.
Conclusion
It is good to dream about your children but stressing them about the same thing again and again or mentioning it all the time in front of others can make them angry for no reason or have many other problems like this. So, stop worrying about your children and give them a tomorrow they desire.
